Domestic Violence

Intimate partner violence, or domestic violence, can be difficult to see if it starts little by little, if your partner says they love you, or if they support you financially. Domestic violence can include forced sex, physical abuse, and emotional abuse, such as cruel words or threats. It can happen between married people, to a couple who lives together or apart, or to a same-sex couple. Abuse is never OK.

There are many forms of violence and abuse that fall under the umbrella term of domestic violence. The most common forms of abuse are:

Physical Abuse may include: hitting, punching, kicking, slapping, strangling, smothering, using or threatening to use weapons, shoving, interrupting your sleep, throwing things, destroying property, hurting or killing pets, and denying medical treatment.

Sexual Abuse may include: physically forcing sex, making you feel fearful about saying no to sex, forcing sex with other partners, forcing you to participate in demeaning or degrading sexual acts, violence or name calling during sex, and denying contraception or protection from sexually transmitted diseases.

Emotional Abuse can include: constant put downs or criticisms, name calling, “crazy making”, acting superior, minimizing the abuse or blaming you for their behavior, threatening and making you feel fearful, isolating you from family and friends, excessive jealously, accusing you of having affairs, and watching where you go and who you talk to.

Financial Abuse include: giving you an allowance, not letting you have your own money, hiding family assets, running up debt, interfering with your job, and ruining your credit.

Digital Abuse is the use of technologies such as texting and social networking to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate a partner. Often this behavior is a form of verbal or emotional abuse perpetrated online.

Dove Advocacy Center is available to help and provides free confidential services

You may be experiencing domestic violence if your partner:

-Controls what you’re doing
-Checks your phone, email, or social networks without your permission
-Forces you to have sex when you don’t want to
-Controls your birth control or insists that you get pregnant
-Decides what you wear or eat or how you spend money
-Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing your family or friends
-Humiliates you on purpose in front of others
-Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful
-Destroys your things
-Threatens to hurt you, your children, other loved ones, or your pets
-Hurts you physically (e.g., hitting, beating, punching, pushing, kicking), including with a weapon
-Blames you for his or her violent outbursts
-Threatens to hurt herself or himself because of being upset with you
-Threatens to report you to the authorities for imagined crimes
-Says things like, “If I can’t have you, then no one can”

Violencia Doméstica

Violencia doméstica es un patrón de compotamientos usado para establecer poder y control sobre otra persona a través del miedo y la intimidación.

Violencia doméstica sucede en las relaciones Íntimas adultas, relaciones adolescentes, relaciones del mismo sexo,  y algunas veces continúa después de que la relación haya terminado.

La gente a menudo piensa en la violencia doméstica como actos de violencia física solamente.  Sin embargo, la violencia doméstica puede tomar muchas formas, como físico, emocional, sexual, o abuso financiero.

¿Alguna vez has sido empujado, abofeteado, golpeado, pateado, o estrangulado por alguien que dice que te amo?

¿Te sientes aislado de amigos y familiares?

¿Se les dice a otras personas que usted está loca o abusiva?

¿Son sus llamadas telefónicas o su correo monitorizaras?

¿Usted tiene supervicion financier y las restricciones

En gastar efectico la disponibilidad e.g acceso a chquera

O tarjetas de credito? Usted no se le permite trabajar?

Y si usted trabaja esta obligado a girar en el ingreso?

No tiene que ser de esa manera.  Usted no Ocaciono el abuso, usted no esta solo Ay persona que le pueden ayudar.

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